20 Questions For Your Spouse

November 20, 2008

Either on a date or during a private conversation, try using the questions below to learn more about the heart of your spouse.  Allow topics to raise additional questions that you may want to explore, but keep the mood and focus positive.  Listen more than you talk.

PERSONAL
-What is your greatest hope or dream?
-What do you enjoy the most about your life right now?
-What do you enjoy the least about your life right now?
-What would your dream job be if you could do anything and get paid for it?
-What are some things you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the opportunity yet?
-What three things would you like to do before the next year passes?
-Who do you feel the most “safe” being with? Why?
-If you could have lunch with anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
-When was the last time you felt filled with joy?
-If you had to give away a million dollars, who would you give it to?

MARITAL
-What are three things that I do that you really like?
-What are three things that I do that drive you crazy?
-What have I done in the past that made you feel loved?
-What have I done that made you feel unappreciated?
-What are three things that I can work on?
-Of the following things, what would make you feel most loved?
Having your body massaged and caressed for an hour.
Sitting and talking for an hour about your favorite subject.
Having help around the house for an afternoon.
Receiving a very nice gift.
Hearing encouragement about how appreciated you are.
-What things in the past do you wish could be erased from ever happening?
-What is the next major decision that you think God would want us to make as a couple?
-What would you like your life to look like five years from now?
-What words would you like to hear from me more often?

Offer encouragement and a listening ear. Refuse to allow this to become an argument or time for you to criticize. Let this be a time for your mate to express themselves.

Day 40-Marriage

Love Is a Covenant

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.  Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present.  Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge.  Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.-Ruth 1:16

Day 39-Marriage

November 19, 2008

Love Endures

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse.  Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what.  Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.

Love never fails.-1 Corinthians 13:8

Day 37-Marriage

November 18, 2008

Love Agrees In Prayer

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime.  Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord.  Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing.  Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.

If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father.-Matthew 18:19

Day 38-Marriage

Love Fulfills Dreams

Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable.  Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4

Day 36-Marriage

November 17, 2008

Love Is God’s Word

Commit to reading the Bible every day.  Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance.  If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you.  Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.-Psalm 119:105

Day 35-Marriage

November 16, 2008

Love Is Accountable

Find a marriage mentor-someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you.  If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment.  During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed.-Proverbs 15:22 NIV

Day 34-Marriage

November 15, 2008

Love Celebrates Godliness

Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.  Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with truth.-1 Corinthians 13:6

Day 33-Marriage

November 14, 2008

Love Completes Each Other

Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success.  Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.  If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.

If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?-Ecclesiaites 4:11

Day 32-Marriage

November 13, 2008

Love Meets Sexual Needs

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today.  Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually.  Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.

The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.-1Corinthinas 7:3

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